If January was about the big Pause, February is about the heart. We are still in our “hibernation” phase, but as the first snowdrops begin to peek through the frost, we can start to turn our attention toward Connection—both with ourselves and with those we love.
February brings Valentine’s Day and Galentine’s Day, which can be a “double-edged sword” during the menopause transition. When you are dealing with night sweats, fatigue, and a shifting body, “romance” might be the very last thing on your mind. However, this month offers a unique opportunity to look at intimacy through a new, kinder lens.
1. The Libido Gap: It’s Not "All in Your Head"
It is a conversation many women avoid, but a drop in sex drive is an incredibly common physiological symptom of perimenopause and menopause. The decline in oestrogen and testosterone can lead to a lack of desire and physical discomfort, which can put an enormous strain on even the strongest relationships.
💜 The Testosterone Talk: Did you know that women produce more testosterone than oestrogen before menopause? It is vital for energy, muscle mass, and libido. If you feel you have lost your “va-va-voom,” it might be time to talk to your GP.
💜 Redefining Intimacy: Romance doesn’t have to mean a grand, high-pressure gesture. During this phase, focus on “low-demand” intimacy. A romantic winter walk in the crisp air or a cosy movie night with a fleecy blanket can rebuild connection without the pressure of performance.
💜 Communication is Key: Be honest with your partner. Explain that it is a hormonal shift, not a lack of love. Understanding takes the sting out of rejection and allows you to face the transition as a team.
💡 Top 3 Tips for Talking to Your GP about Testosterone
- Track Your Symptoms: Before your appointment, note down how your lack of libido is affecting your quality of life, mood, and energy. GPs are more likely to prescribe if they see a clear impact on your wellbeing.
- Check Your Oestrogen First: In the UK, NICE guidelines usually suggest that you should be on an optimised dose of oestrogen HRT for at least 3–6 months before adding testosterone.
- Use the Right Terminology: Ask specifically about “HSDD” (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder) and mention that you are aware of the NICE guidelines regarding testosterone for menopausal women.
2. The "Self-Love" Audit & Your Journaling Practice
As we work through the Prepare phase of our Four P’s, there is no better tool than putting pen to paper. Journaling allows you to untangle the “menopause brain fog” and track what is truly working for your body.
Self-love isn’t just about bubble baths; it’s about reclaiming your narrative.
💜 The Juicy Menopause® Journal: If you are looking for a place to start, my own journal—“Juicy Menopause: It Starts With You”—is specifically designed to be your companion through this transition. It’s a space to track your symptoms, celebrate your wins, and plan your journey toward a more vibrant you.
💜 February Prompt: This month, try writing down three things you love about your body today. Even if it feels different to how it used to, it is the vessel carrying you through this massive change. Treat it with the same kindness you’d offer a dear friend.
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3. Galentine’s: Why Your "Tribe" is Your Medicine
The menopause journey can feel incredibly lonely. You might feel like you are the only one struggling with hot flushes, weight changes, or sudden tears. This is why Galentine’s Day (13th February) is perhaps more important than Valentine’s!
💜 Break the Silence: Spending time with close friends who “get it” is scientifically proven to lower cortisol. Whether it’s a coffee date or a long phone call, sharing your experiences reminds you that you aren’t alone.
💜 Laughter as Therapy: Never underestimate the power of a “belly laugh” with a girlfriend. It’s one of the fastest ways to boost your oxytocin (the “cuddle hormone”) and lift a low February mood.
4. Small Steps for a "Juicy" February
While we wait for the “Big Launch” in March, use this month to focus on these small, nurturing actions:
💚 Pelvic Health: Focus on your pelvic floor. A strong pelvic floor improves bladder control and can increase physical comfort and pleasure.
💚 Skin Nutrition: Winter skin can feel dry and dull (thanks to the oestrogen drop!). Treat yourself to a rich, nourishing moisturiser—it’s a small way to “Prepare” for the brighter days ahead.
Heart Health: February is Heart Month! Oestrogen protects our hearts, so as levels drop, we need to be mindful. Focus on omega-3 rich walnuts, seeds, and oily fish to keep your “ticker” in top shape.
Ready to Rediscover Your Spark?
February shouldn’t be about feeling “less than.” It’s about understanding the biological shifts and finding new ways to feel vibrant and connected. Whether you want to discuss HRT options like testosterone or need a strategy to improve your energy, I am here to guide you.
Don’t navigate this alone. Book a free discovery call today, and let’s make February the month you reconnect with yourself.
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